episode 27 /
GHOSTS IN THE BEDROOM – HOW FAMILY OF ORIGIN AFFECTS YOUR ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP
This week the therapists dish and dive on part two of the family of origin issues that we can drag into our romantic relationships.
Growing up, from the way our caregivers responded to our emotional needs, we learned about our own worthiness and the trustworthiness of others.
Pam and Iona dish about how their FOO experiences have wrecked havoc with their partners and dive into the literature to learn and teach what can be done to create intimacy and reduce conflict within a relationship if your “models of self and other” were damaged. There is hope!!
SHOW NOTES
This week the therapists dish and dive on family of origin issues and how they inform our sense of self and sense of other.
Am I loveable? Are caregivers reliable? If we come out of our families feeling a lack of love ability and a lack of trust in others, it can be pretty tough to navigate romantic relationships down the road.
Listen in and get started thinking about what you learned about your self and your world from your family of origin.
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN PODCASTS
Higgins, L. (December 6, 2017). Your parents or your partner: who are you married to.
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https://www.huffingtonpost.com/liz-higgins-lmft-associate/your-parents-or-partner-w_b_8777144.html
Kallos-Lilly, V. & Fitzgerald, J. (2015). An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us. New York: Routledge.
Meisner, W. (1978). The conceptualization of marriage and family dynamics from a psychoanalytic perspective. In T. J. Paolino & B. S. McCrady (Eds.), Marriage and marital therapy: Psychoanalytic, behavioral and systems perspectives. New York, N.Y.: Brunner/Mazel.
Rae, M. (October 16, 2016). The beauty of secure functioning.
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https://stantatkinblog.wordpress.com/?s=attachment&submit=
Tatkin, S., (February 28, 2016). Three lenses through which we view marriage.
from
https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-puzzle-love/201602/three-lenses-through-which-we-view-marriage
