Season 4,

episode 105 / The Withdrawer

February 19, 2020
episode 105/ SEASON 4
February 19, 2020

The Withdrawer


Show Notes


Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about The Withdrawer.

Behind every good pursuer is a good distancer. Iona is married to one and Pam is one, so its a charged topic. Learn how they each cope in their own marriages and learn what it is that The Withdrawer is truly feeling underneath the cool exterior.

It’ll surprise you how much is under there. Also, learn what the distancer really longs for and how the pursuer can give it to them, if they don’t retreat into withdrawal.

Understand your stance in the cycle so you can get what you need from your partner and from your relationship.

Resources Mentioned in Podcasts

Eaker Wiel, B. (not stated). Are you a distancer? (questionnaire).


Gottman, J. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York, NY: Random House Inc..


Horsmon, S. (March 2017). How to avoid the pursuer-distancer pattern in your relationship.


Hung, S. (June 2017). How you (both) feel matters: Emotion focused therapy for couples.


Ogi Potential website (not stated) Emotion focused couples therapy.


Thurman, D. (March 2019). Breaking relational conflict.





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